50 is an amazing age to start dating again. At age 50, you’ve accomplished a lot of life’s important work and you’re ready for the next big adventure. Meeting the right person to share your next phase of life with might make it even better.
We know that folks who haven’t been single for a long time are likely to be a little rusty when it comes to dating. The landscape has changed and conventions are different from when we first courted. The good news is, the person you hope to meet is probably in the same boat. Here’s how to start.
Dating can be fun or torturous depending on your attitude and readiness. Just as you cleanse your palate between courses when having a nice dinner, you need to clear yourself emotionally and mentally after your divorce. Don’t rush the process; dating after divorce can take time.
Even if you feel you’ve processed your split and are ready to move on, take time for yourself. When was the last time you were free and single? Savor the experience and celebrate your independence. Dating is the perfect way to enjoy life and test a new relationship.
At age 50 you’re a prime catch, but you might need a little confidence boost to get started. After a divorce, some find it easy to fall into the rut of feeling like damaged goods. Don’t despair. You have some excellent experience and valuable relationship skills that will make you attractive to others. Use those skills to get back in the game.
Maybe you’ve looked at some online dating services, dating apps or talked to friends. There are a lot of options out there. The most important thing is to enjoy the experience and proceed at a pace that matches your comfort level. If you become overwhelmed, it may be time to take a break or try a new approach.
First dates may feel like a big deal, but they don’t have to be. Have fun and be yourself without attaching too much meaning or expectation to the experience. When the date is over, be honest with yourself.
If you’re not interested in a second date, don’t feel guilty about moving on. You’re sparing yourself and the other person a lot of time and grief. Likewise, don’t despair if the other person doesn’t seek a second date. Honesty and integrity are part of the game.
We get to know you and match you with a person we think will be a great match for you. If you need a little training before getting back out there, one of our dating coaches can help get you back into peak dating condition. To get started, reach out to our matchmaking professionals.
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