Balancing Love With Work: A Step-By-Step Guide for Busy Bachelors & Bachelorettes

May 1, 2018
Posted by Aimee

Finding love undeniably takes time. As much as you may want to skip ahead to the point where you get to relax in your sweats and cuddle with your partner while watching Netflix, there’s a lot of work that’s required to get to that point. And when you’re a busy working professional, you’ll need to be practical with your dating pursuits. It may not be particularly sexy or glamorous, but for Boston singles, approaching your dating life from a realistic standpoint will lead to success in the future. Today, we’ll be setting you up with a simple, pragmatic guide you can use to balance your love life with professional pursuits.

Step 1: Set Aside Time for First Dates

Every month, set aside a couple of two-hour blocks for first dates. You don’t have to end up using these blocks of time, but you do need to keep yourself open to the possibility. Try choosing at least one weeknight block and one weekend block each month. This way you won’t have any excuse to turn down a first date. And if you don’t end up going on dates, then you’ll have two free hours of “me time” blocked off for your own enjoyment. Treating dating just like any other activity can help to keep your dating life organized and manageable.

Step 2: Limit Your App Exposure

If you’ve decided to try out dating apps, you need to take steps to ensure these virtual assistants don’t take over your life. All dating apps have one goal: to keep you engaged with their platform. Between alerts, messages, texts, and updates, dating apps will keep up a constant stream of activity to try to keep you on them for as long as possible. Moreover, when faced with seemingly limitless pools of potential partners, you can very easily find yourself swiping left and right for hours as you try to connect with a real person. To avoid getting swept away in the swiping culture, set limits on how much time you’re allowed to spend on each app. You can set a daily limit or a weekly limit; the choice is yours. But once you set your limit, make sure you stick to it. You wouldn’t allow yourself to spend hours of your working day scrolling through social media (or at least, you shouldn’t), so don’t let yourself commit the same mistake with dating apps.

Step 3: Be Honest

When you’re a working professional, finding the time to date can be hard. Sometimes, it can seem best to simply lower your standards and start fibbing the truth in order to squeeze in more dates or interactions in your life. But we strongly discourage this. Fudging the truth to get yourself that highly prized first date may seem like it’s saving you time and expediting the dating process, but in reality, you’re only drawing out your search even further. You can’t lie to yourself forever. Maybe you can put aside your preferences for that first date, and even the second, but those natural predilections will eventually boil to the surface, and then you’ll have to start all over. Just be honest with yourself and others from the start. Know what you want, and go after it.

Step 4: Follow Through

Once you’ve found someone, the actual hard part will begin: dating. When you’re a working professional, making time for someone else can be a challenge. And just like with setting aside time for first dates, you’ll need to consciously commit time to making your new relationship work. For some, this means actually scheduling out dates and activities down to the minute. For others, it’s as simple as accepting that building and maintaining your relationship is now an important activity in your life. Try to look at maintaining your relationship the same way that you would working out. If you want to see the best results, you need to commit time every day to conditioning your new relationship muscles.

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Finding and building a relationship takes time, and for any working professional, time is a hot commodity. If you’re struggling to balance your dating life with your career, it may be time to call LunchDates. As one of Boston’s top professional dating services, we’ve helped dozens of working professionals find love within their busy schedules, and we can do the same for you! Give one of our matchmakers a call to see how you can find the perfect balance between your career and your love life today!

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