Dating in Your 20s vs Dating in Your 40s

June 14, 2018
Posted by Aimee

Dating in your 20s is way different than dating in your 40s. And if you just got out of a relationship either through divorce, being widowed, or a breakup, you’ll find yourself faced with a completely different dating world than that of your 20s. Dating in your 20s is a time of fun and laughs when there’s little pressure attached to each date. But, that laissez-faire feeling tends to disappear with age. Typically, when individuals date in their 40s, they’re looking to make a life-long connection, but that doesn’t mean it’s the same for all single 40+ adults. Whether you’re looking for your next marriage partner or someone to have a good time with, you’ll undoubtedly notice these difference in the dating world as you get back out there.

At LunchDates, we’ve helped plenty of busy professionals find love again after divorce or loss. Or maybe you’re just now ready to start looking for a long-term relationship. No matter the case, we can help you find that special someone.

The Way Society Feels About Online Dating

20 years ago, if you had said that you were going out for dinner with some stranger you met online your friends and family would tell you you’re crazy and then stage an intervention. Now however, apps like Bumble, OkCupid, The League, and Tinder and widely seen as acceptable apps to have on your phone. Plus, sites like eHarmony and Match.com are seen as ok places to try to meet cute guys or girls. Now we’re not saying that online dating has become any more successful in the past 20 years, but you’re less likely to be seen as a crazy person if you’re using dating apps now in your 40s then you would have been back in your 20s.

The Random Meet

Why is it that movies and TV shows like to perpetuate the myth that you’ll meet the love of your life in a grocery store or bumping into each other in the street? Sure, those might actually happen, but it’s not very likely. Now in your 20s, you were probably most likely to hit it off with a stranger at a bar, college event, or house party. Now that you’re in your 40s, you have adult interests and will be more likely to randomly find someone worth talking to at the dog park with your furry child, at the playground with your real child, a networking event, or a community social. Those with children will especially see a dramatic change in where they have their first encounters with potential partners. From parent-teacher conferences to meet ups for single parents.

Date Conversation

“How are you?” “Good, and you?” “Good. Did you find it ok?” “I did thanks.”

This is the same conversation you have on every first date ever while in your 20s.

Typically, conversations in your 20s don’t have as much substance as the ones you have in your 40s. You don’t have a whole lot to talk about in your 20s because your life has been mostly comprised of schooling. But in your 40s that will have changed. You’ve experience life and can have more informed conversations. You can talk about anything from buying your first home to taking a spur of the moment vacation. When you’re dating in your 40s the conversation can be about just about anything while on a first date because you both have many years of experiences to draw from. But just a reminder, save politics, healthcare, and talking about the raising cost of housing for a later date.

Finding Dates

In your 20s it was relatively easy to find someone to go out on a date with. Your friend knew someone or that cute girl in Biology asked you out. When you’re a real adult, finding potential suitors can be more difficult. Many don’t feel comfortable dating from their workpool which eliminates a large pool of possibilities. Plus, most dating apps are geared towards the younger 20-somethings, so finding a meaningful relationship online can be tricky. We might be biased, but we think that matchmaking is a great resource for those trying to date over 40. You will meet people that are more serious about being in a relationship unlike most  dating apps, and our matchmakers do all of the work for you. By hand selecting your matches, we help busy professionals find lasting relationships.

Are you Ready to Start Dating?

If you’re a 40+ single and ready to get back in the dating game, we’re ready to help you. At LunchDates we’ve helped hundreds of working professionals of all ages find love amidst their busy schedules, and we can do the same for you! Contact us today to learn more about how our matchmakers can make a difference in your love life.

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