Is anything more nerve-wracking than going on a first date, particularly a first date after years of being in a relationship or simply not dating? We know it’s not exactly a walk in the park, no matter how many dates you’ve been on throughout your life. Luckily, the expert matchmakers at LunchDates have put together some tips for success on your first date.
What are you hoping to get out of a first date? Are you looking for some good casual conversation or an instant deep connection with someone? If you’re going on your first date in a while, don’t stress yourself out with the expectation of meeting your soulmate on your first try. It may take a few dates and some trial-and-error before you begin to recognize potential partners that you could “click” with.
As a career-minded professional, you’re a busy person. You don’t have the time to spare to go back and forth planning a date. If the other person suggests a date, but doesn’t propose a solid plan, it’s on you to take charge and suggest a time and place.
The more comfortable you feel in your environment, the more confident you’ll be chatting with your date. Pick a place to meet someone that you’ve been to before or one you’re sure you’ll like. Grabbing coffee is a casual, low-commitment way to meet a potential partner; coffee shops are safe public spaces, and if you feel uncomfortable or it isn’t going well, it’s easy to end the date.
Coco Chanel once said, “You can be gorgeous at thirty, charming at forty, and irresistible for the rest of your life.” It doesn’t matter how old you are; if you feel good about yourself and how you look, you’ll be irresistible. Choose an outfit that makes you feel attractive and is appropriate for the setting of your date. Don’t take any chances here, because it’ll show if you’re not feeling great about your outfit.
You’ve done the hard part; finding a potential partner, setting up a date and choosing the right outfit. Now, you just have to be yourself. Too often men and women both try to be the person they think you want them to be on a first date. Of course, you want to present yourself in the best possible way, but go on the date with no pretensions or affectations.
If you’re not a natural at small talk, conversation can grind to a halt quickly, especially on a date with someone you don’t know very well. Have a few general topics and simple questions in mind. From travel experiences to hobbies, you’re bound to hit on something that will get the conversation flowing.
It’s easy to fall into a routine of getting to know someone, particularly if you go on a lot of first dates. While you’re planning out your conversation topics–and while you’re on your date–make sure that your questions aren’t too fact-based. “Where are you from?” and “What do you do for work?” can get old quickly, so be sure to transition those questions into further conversation about your date’s interests.
LunchDates matchmaking services are a wonderful way to set up a first date. Whether you’re trying to get back into dating after ending a committed relationship, or you simply don’t have the time to seek out someone on your own, our expert dating coaches can set up a casual date with your ideal match. All you have to do is let your personality shine!
The best matchmakers in Boston are ready to help you find love. Over the past 30 years, LunchDates has become known as the most trusted matchmaking service in the greater Boston area. We take the time to get to know you; your likes, dislikes, and all the qualities you’re searching for in a partner. Our professional matchmakers will then match you up with someone who fits those parameters. We can even provide post-date advice! Contact us today to find out more about our services.
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