10 Apr Niche Dating Apps & The Dating Fatigue Epidemic
Approximately 54% of people living in America are single, outnumbering their married counterparts for the first time in history. A lot has changed in the dating world in a short amount of time. In the U.S. 15% of singles are using online dating to meet someone. There are hundreds of dating apps. There are hook up apps, relationship apps, apps for beginners, farmers, dog lovers, fitness buffs and too many more to even mention. One would think it would be easier than ever to meet the person you’re looking for, but then why do so many singles feel exhausted and overwhelmed with the dating process?
Is it the dating process or the selection process? Dating has always been a challenge, but the selection process which has evolved through online dating adds another level. It’s more work. There are too many choices. Not everyone is who they say they are. So, have you had enough of swiping? Do your messages seem half hearted? If you find yourself lacking the eagerness and excitement just before a first date, you may be suffering from dating fatigue. It happens to the best of us. Read here why you have it and how to help stop it.
You have dating fatigue if…
• You enjoy the selection process more than dating itself. Swiping for the sake of swiping.
• You juggle multiple dating apps. Another bad move. More is not always better.
• Your “red flags” have gotten more specific and numerous.
• You’re on the lookout for reasons to run away rather than connect.
• It’s more first dates than second or third.
• You’ve shut your profile down and turned it back on numerous times.
• You actually liked a few people, but they walked away. More than likely you’ve picked up some bad dating habits.
So how do you reset and get back on track? How do you cure your dating fatigue?
• Start cleaning house. Reduce your multiple dating apps to 1 or get offline completely.
• Take time to reflect why you’re moving so fast from one person to the next. Are you really being highly selective or are you serial dating?
• Is your “wish list” something that is reasonable? No, you don’t have to settle, but you do have to have some common sense!
• Are you really ready to give it your all? Are you emotionally ready to fall in love?
• Invest in a matchmaker to do all the work for you
• Work with a dating coach to get rid of those bad habits
The phone rings in our office at LunchDates all day long with singles that are completely done with online dating. The games, the posturing, the tremendous amount of energy it takes to go on a date, all seem to lead to nowhere. I’m not saying that online dating doesn’t work for some, but now, more than ever, singles tell me they’re done playing games and want to try a different approach.
Old fashioned matchmaking is exploding in popularity for singles wanting relationships. In reality the need has always been there, but with more dating apps on the rise, we have seen a tremendous uptick in people wanting real help finding a partner. Matchmakers have been fine tuning the selection process before swiping was trendy. That’s exactly why we should talk. Not only do matchmakers at LunchDates do all the work for you, we’re successful in getting people into relationships. After all, once upon a time that was the real purpose of dating.
Aimee Burke is a dating coach and matchmaker at LunchDates. Aimee specializes in date coaching for singles in the Boston area. She also serves as an executive matchmaker and recruits professional singles for her clients.