03 Oct Why Now Is the Best Time to Hire a Matchmaker
There’s a certain nostalgia when working with an old-fashioned professional matchmaker. If you haven’t met someone who openly admits that they’re a client of one, you may assume that they don’t exist anymore. Sure, in the age of online dating, with over 1,000 different dating apps to choose from, why would you need to hire a matchmaker? You may assume that because you can get “plenty of dates” on your own, matchmakers are of little use. But you would be wrong. Are you still single? Have you ever deleted your dating app out of frustration, only to turn it back on shortly after that for fear you’re so busy you’ll never run into anyone on your own? Or maybe the online scene isn’t your thing, but meeting someone by chance isn’t happening either. In walks your matchmaker, a professional headhunter just for you. Armed with the knowledge of your deepest wishes and desires in a mate, it is their duty and chosen profession to search out and find you the person you’ve always wanted.
The irony in the age of online dating is that now is the very best time to hire a matchmaker. Let me explain. Today, in the U.S., the population of single adults makes up about 50% of total people. What that means for you, as a single person, is that you have more opportunities to meet a fantastic match! There are more singles out there to choose from, but that can become a very overwhelming selection process. Have you ever thought that the act of finding dates feels like a part-time job? It is. And for professional matchmakers, it’s their full-time job. Dating has become a much more sophisticated labyrinth of do’s and don’ts than ever before. How will you navigate the dating maze successfully?
Here’s what a matchmaker can do for you.
#1. They’re experts. You’re not.
They speak to single people all day long. They understand how the dating scene is different today than it was say 5 or 10 years ago. They have the inside intel on what men and women really think before, during and after a first date. How does this help you? If your single friends or married co-workers seem a bit delusional when it comes to understanding your experience out there dating, a matchmaker is your private confidant. And they will give you some tough love if you’re doing or saying something that’s hurting your chances of finding love.
#2. They have a large dating pool for you. You don’t.
Don’t assume your dating app has the largest dating pool out there. With free profiles, fake profiles and non-active profiles, there is a huge chance that you’re swiping on someone who is not actually available. In fact, a study done by the GlobalWebIndex found that approximately 42% of Tinder users were already in a relationship. Professional matchmakers meet their clients and work closely with them to understand what they’re looking for in a mate. They also personally reach out to the people they’re setting you up with to make sure they’re legit.
#3. You don’t have time to look for dates.
It seems like today, more than ever, we are overscheduled and overworked. And if dating does feel like a second job to most, there’s probably not enough time in your day to get it done. This is especially the case here in Boston. With such a large number of professional, well-educated single people around, it’s no wonder Boston singles are turning to matchmakers for help.
#4. They match people based on a number of different variables. You may not be picking the best.
Have you ever thought to yourself, “Why do I keep picking the same type of…?” Having an objective, expert opinion can only improve your odds of getting into a healthy relationship. Successful matchmakers, like the ones at LunchDates, have experience in getting people into relationships. They also understand what works and what doesn’t. Matchmakers have candid discussions with their clients. They will ask you questions about yourself and your dating life that you may have never thought of before. It may seem silly, but the question of “what are your relationship goals?” stumps a lot of people. Working with a professional will give you clarity and insight into what you want and what you’re already doing.
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The dating landscape today, although abundant in single people, is also highly competitive. I beg to argue that it’s highly dismissive as well. We can thank online dating for that one! Where has the dignity gone in taking your time in getting to know someone? Extending some chivalry towards a woman you like? Or enjoying the journey of getting to know one person at a time? Nostalgia may be what we all need. It doesn’t seem like more apps, more swiping and more single people are getting us to what we want, which is getting into a fantastic relationship. For a matchmaker, that is her only objective for you.
Ready to find the man or woman of your dreams? Then be sure to call or message LunchDates. We’d love to chat with you and determine how we can help you find a partner who suits your needs and lifestyle. Looking forward to hearing from you soon!
Aimee Burke has over a decade of experience as a relationship coaching professional. She is an avid writer and researcher for the Boston dating scene. She’s also the main contributor to LunchDates’ dating advice blog.